Surely you jest? Me? Not doing anything?

Note : Ya know, if you hate people who whine and complain almost half the time, I can just tell you to stop reading here and go live in your happy and flowery world. No point getting offended by someone who has a more critical stand on the government's actions, right? I'd just say tits or gtfo.

Well now. I'm quite the upset being reading that someone says I'm all shouts and vents but not being proactive on my words into helping changing my dear country into a better place. Honestly? I think these people who are having a better life OUTSIDE of our country should just think twice before putting up a statement like that. Like, pot calling the kettle black? Happened three times already recently and it's saddening. First occasion would be my argument on reforms and the benefits society gets. The second would be my arguments on the liberalization on sexual orientation and gender.

Recently, I've just log heads with a fellow Malaysian now residing in Australia. I was told by him that all my venting on how the Government has been leaving out crucial things in society when making a reform. Take for example, Malacca itself. I'm quite sure many of you who have been to Malacca could see lots of development within the state itself in mere years, but then again, let me ask, who benefits from all these transformation of a small city into a world heritage? Are they, us, the citizen, or are they the Government themselves, earning revenues and praises from Malacca's "improved economy".

Although the development is good, but nothing comes without strings attached. Take the icons of Malacca, the river cruise, the revolving tower of Taming Sari and the soon-to-be-removed Eye of Malaysia. Do you think we, as Malaccans would even want to spend the money into riding any of these things? The only profit form these architectures and machinery would be the revenue it generates, for the Government, and what goes back into the citizen? Nothing. Nothing but continuous floods, dengue outbreak and corruption. Let me point out, dear readers, that in Australia, a dengue case only happens like, once in 60 years. So, to that guy who is in Australia now, I'm sure you're happy that I caught dengue do you? I mean, it was fun, letting them draw my blood endlessly everyday for monitoring and losing weight.

Surely now people would ask if Mr boy-genius here has any suggestions or solution to these matter, well of course I do. Flood is not something new in Malacca as we know it. And the worst part was, flooding happens more often in our town itself. Shouldn't our town, being a town itself, be equipped with more contingency plans? Oh! Right! Actually we do! The recent flood was caused by SOMEONE who didn't released the floodgates at the Malacca river and now HE wants to use public money to build an automated pump that pumps water out of the river in case of flashfloods. I'm like, dude! Just make sure there are automated orders instead of directive orders to open the flood gate in case of heavy rain or flood indications, that's more than enough! We don't need to spend another billion on a single pump! Save us the money and invest them into Malacca's public transport would ya?! Malacca has never gone any better by the way, spending power is still low, social ills are still about and rampant, corruptions are still aplenty, medical treatments are still pretty much backwater and services in various sectors are still poor. Now you tell me. So, what have I done? Oh, I'm only complaining. I did nothing really. I am just going to do what a small man like me can do, denying votes. Unlike some people who have left us here and couldn't even be bothered about casting votes.

Now, on to my second argument of liberalization of sexual orientation and gender. This is one sensitive topic to talk about honestly, as many people have differing opinions on this taboo, but regardless I think Malaysia should really grow up by now and be more sensitive towards this issue of gender and sexual orientation. Lately, one friend of mine was relieved from his work because it was found out he was gay. (Don't ask me how, but it happened) So, let me ask, what was his sin in this case? Did he steal? Did he hurt anyone? Does it matter what your orientations are while you're working?

Two guys were granted asylum in the UK for being gay last month. Yet, they were accused of abusing the law and going for greener pastures on the other side of the country and worst yet, these accusation come from fellow Malaysians. I guess this needs no further ranting from me right? I'm quite tired repeating this over and over again. Though I'd really like to see Marina's opinion on this. Surely she has a better and wiser opinion.

Then, allow me to point out a news that many people didn't know or read in the papers. A hermaphrodite, (for those who doesn't know what hermaphrodite means, go wiki it.) was constantly taunted and bullied in school. She (because her appearance resembles more of a girl) always have a hard time choosing between the gents and the ladies because entering either one would create more obscene taunts anyway.

So, what can be done about these problems? I'm just going to sulk here if you don't mind. I think the Government should have a law that forbids gender and sexual orientation discrimination. And even though we do have, there are not enough contexts to cover every single angle and are not taken seriously enough. Surely my friend there in the Europe can understand these liberty instead of accusing me for being a hell full of hatred? Come back to Malaysia, would you? And tell the world your orientation! We'll see how musical-basket your life would be right after that.

I'm just a man with opinions. I'm just a man who have been through many things that lots of people haven't been through, and trust me on that. I may have my own views and approach and if you don't like them, that's just too bad. I'm not apologizing for my thoughts and my push for justice on these people who were victimised daily. And surely I do hope my friend Carol (not her real name) would understand my outburst in her Facebook wall recently and would see things my way for awhile. I'm just a man.

Are we ready for that kind of relationship?

Yes folks. Today's blog would be another one of my thought-provoking question on life and love. I just had quite a chat with a friend of mine. As outgoing as she seems, she ended up opening up to me all her pain that she was enduring all these while. (sounds so like me by the way..)
Apparently, my dear friend has been quite in the mud on how to deal with this one boy she was with. You know, those relationship-in-a-puddle-of-mud kinda thingy? Like, you don't know where this is heading. Like, you don't know what to do right now. Like, everything is just not the same anymore, not fun anymore. So we ask ourselves once again, are we ready for that kind of relationship?
She even told me about her ex, who is her best friend now. She did ask him this one peculiar and interesting question after their relationship fiasco. She asked, "Did you ever love another while we were together?" Pretty much of an innocent question isn't it? But, quite a heavy one too, seeing how she had totally guilt-trap this guy. Anyway, this was the guy's reply, "Yes, I did, but I didn't meet her at all because we were together."
Noble answer indeed, young man. And now for the second trap!
My friend asked again, "Did you do it out of responsibility or you didn't meet her because you have forgotten about her?" Now, this, is the final touch on the masterpiece. I find this one question truly truly thought-provoking. And, as it seems, this poor guy couldn't quite answer for awhile and he ended up saying, "I did it out of responsibility." But oh well, either way it's a die-die situation for him.. I mean, girls are good at guilt-trapping guys.
So here's the conclusion. You date a girl, and didn't meet another because of RESPONSIBILITY? So, what if someone did indeed cheat? Is he irresponsible? But saying that you've forget about the other girl would totally be lying wouldn't it? Haha.
Still, when questions like this arise, we ask ourselves once again, as I have mentioned before, are we ready for that kind of relationship? I seem to find the younger generation nowadays seem to take love easy, something which I don't quite approve. Just the other day, I've heard another friend asking an opinion on how to handle a partner who flirts with another person too much till it's unbecoming and uncomfortable. You can't blame someone for flirting can you? It's a kind of boost for their self-esteem to be admired and wanted, but a dose of jealousy is good too, and do let them know you are envy (NOT JEALOUS) of their actions because you think it's unhealthy for your relationships. Also, emotionally-wise, it makes them realise that they are wanted and eventually, leading to a sense of stability, reliance and protection.
Though, back to my ranting, I see people nowadays coupling like nobody's business. It's like, you can be with this girl AND another girl at the same time, thinking it's just a sheer game where you will continue winning as long as no one finds out. Isn't this just.... WRONG?! The kind of mentality embedded in our younger generations is just.. stupid, to say the least, if not irresponsible. Is he ready to be responsible for the outcome should anything untoward happens? Not forgetting the fact that humans nowadays have a more fragile mind that shatters like a glass with a simple blow of crushed relationship, and WHAM!! Commit suicide... again.
I guess this is as much as I would say now, knowing that some people actually bothered listening. Anyway, thanks for reading this little breath of mine.